Intention vs. Perception
We intend to be supportive, but aren’t always perceived that way. How do you hear when they feel upset, and shift back into connection?
Category: MODULE 3
What’s a Functional Analysis?
"Functional analysis" means figuring out what’s happening around a behavior, to go from reactive to having choice and influence.
Victim Stance: The “Why Me?” Episode
Feeling victimized means you're being passive. Shift focus--you have agency and control, and you're responsible for yourself and your care.
Do They “Have to Want It?”
Do people "have to want" recovery? Reality is more complicated. We can give options, be open to process, and change our own behavior.
What Does It Mean to Be an Ally?
Being an ally means stepping up, learning to see chances to be a change agent -- for slow, methodical change.
Building Your CRAFT Muscle
Begin with considering what you need to do. This leads to self-care, changing you, but also allowing your loved one new possibilities. Building Your C…
Interview with Alex Ribbentrop
Alex Ribbentrop joins the Allies in Recovery hosts to discuss intergenerational trauma, substance use, the importance of family, and finding connectio…
Do You Have a Plan and a Backup Plan?
What questions should you ask, and what plans should you make if your loved one is coming home? Dominique and Kayla discuss a family's question about …
Treatment and Recovery: the Allies View
With treatment and recovery, think progress, not perfection. Treatment is how you help them enjoy their lives again. Be part of that joy.
How Do I Know When They’re Using?
Behaviors matter more than whether you're always right -- learn to observe, step forward when it feels right, back when it feels off.