Don’t Tell Me to Calm Down
Learn to calm your system CRAFT-style. Think longer-term -- do CRAFT work, find community via Allies, and learn new ways of thinking.
Category: MODULE 3 – change the pattern
Is Your Situation Unique?
Your situation is uniquely yours, but CRAFT’s C is “community.” Break the isolation to find out what the experts—other families—are doing.
Finding Our Way Back Home: Ram Dass on Breaking the Cycle of Addiction
A beloved teacher on spiritual practice and the pain that traps us in old patterns
The Art of CRAFT
The “craft of CRAFT" is the art of communicating with subtlety and compassion, thoughtfully expressing boundaries without criticizing.
A Closer Look at Two Situations
A look at two situations from the AIR blog -- a woman who stops communicating, and a young man who wants to stay alone while withdrawing.
Intention vs. Perception
We intend to be supportive, but aren’t always perceived that way. How do you hear when they feel upset, and shift back into connection?
What’s a Functional Analysis?
"Functional analysis" means figuring out what’s happening around a behavior, to go from reactive to having choice and influence.
Victim Stance: The “Why Me?” Episode
Feeling victimized means you're being passive. Shift focus--you have agency and control, and you're responsible for yourself and your care.
Do They “Have to Want It?”
Do people "have to want" recovery? Reality is more complicated. We can give options, be open to process, and change our own behavior.
What Does It Mean to Be an Ally?
Being an ally means stepping up, learning to see chances to be a change agent -- for slow, methodical change.