“The Three F’s”: Annie Highwater on Seeking Peace Before Plunging Into the Storm
Sometimes we need to get involved. Sometimes we don’t. Pausing to calm and center ourselves helps either way.
Category: MODULE 1 – what can I control?
FAMILIES Speak: Favorite Tools from CRAFT, Pt. 1
Isabel, Kayla, and co-hosts discuss their favorite tools and tips they've used from the CRAFT method.
FAMILIES SPEAK: What If I Believe My Loved One Isn’t Capable?
We must step back to see our loved ones’ true capability. Do things for them that feel right, but not if you’re stepping over a line.
Holding Contradictions
It’s important to CRAFT to see possibilities, hold more than one truth, and experience many feelings and thoughts to get to healing.
What Are “Natural Consequences?”
Understanding “natural consequences” and allowing them to play out when it’s safe to do so can be a force for change over time.
Intention vs. Perception
We intend to be supportive, but aren’t always perceived that way. How do you hear when they feel upset, and shift back into connection?
Victim Stance: The “Why Me?” Episode
Feeling victimized means you're being passive. Shift focus--you have agency and control, and you're responsible for yourself and your care.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Embrace "beginner's mind"; make mistakes and learn; practice until the tools become automatic. Remember that change happens incrementally.
What Are the Three Questions?
When you’re in the middle of crisis, feeling reactive or uncertain about what to do, use the “three questions” to helps create space and time an…