Victim Stance: The “Why Me?” Episode
Feeling victimized means you're being passive. Shift focus--you have agency and control, and you're responsible for yourself and your care.
Category: EMOTIONS – challenging feelings
Handling It All
A 2000 year old metaphor still has a lot to teach us about dealing with tough feelings and situations.
Do They “Have to Want It?”
Do people "have to want" recovery? Reality is more complicated. We can give options, be open to process, and change our own behavior.
We Live in One Room. Is It Even Possible to Practice CRAFT?
Challenging home circumstances make CRAFT skills all the more valuable
What Do You Do When You’ve Hit the Wall?
Emotions feel unmanageable? Step back. State them briefly, then take care of yourself. Give yourself compassion and patience.
Handling the Call Saying Treatment Is Terrible
You get a call: treatment is bad, and they want to leave. Hold the line. Tell them they can get something good from the situation.
The Season of Expectations
Having expectations for others can be a difficult trap. When we have ideas about how things should go, we often try to manifest those expectations and…
Anger: Why Talking About It With a Purpose (And Not Just Venting) Can Be Healing
Anger evolved with the human brain. Though it may not seem so today, its original function was to keep us safe. Unfortunately, for most of us, anger i…
What Is Enmeshment?
Enmeshment is a blurring of the boundaries between people. How the other person feels affects you intensely. Enmeshment is one-way -- your thoughts, f…
What Are the Three Questions?
When you’re in the middle of crisis, feeling reactive or uncertain about what to do, use the “three questions” to helps create space and time an…