FAMILIES SPEAK: What If I Believe My Loved One Isn’t Capable?
We must step back to see our loved ones’ true capability. Do things for them that feel right, but not if you’re stepping over a line.
Member Topics: SELF-CARE - control & perfectionism
FAMILIES SPEAK: Recovery—Progress, not Perfection
It’s easy to impose expectations, but changing yourself, your expectations and perceptions makes room for your loved one to progress.
Intention vs. Perception
We intend to be supportive, but aren’t always perceived that way. How do you hear when they feel upset, and shift back into connection?
We See His Pot Use as a Problem—But Does He?
Sometimes it’s best to focus on the progress our Loved Ones are making, and wait a bit on what worries us.
Victim Stance: The “Why Me?” Episode
Feeling victimized means you're being passive. Shift focus--you have agency and control, and you're responsible for yourself and your care.
You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Embrace "beginner's mind"; make mistakes and learn; practice until the tools become automatic. Remember that change happens incrementally.
Interview with an Allies member, Pt. 2
In part 1, an Allies member discussed intimacy and its role in applying CRAFT in a romantic relationship. In part 2, she discusses how she's handled i…
Interview with an Allies Member, Pt. 1 of 2
In the first of two episodes with an Allies member, our hosts discuss the member’s experience with her former husband, and issues of intimacy -- how…
What About Family Members’ Trauma?
It can be easy, particularly when those outside a situation offer advice, to overlook the history of trauma that may exist for a family member. CRAFT …
What About Family Members’ Trauma?
It can be easy, particularly when those outside a situation offer advice, to overlook the history of trauma that may exist for a family member. CRAFT …