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This Documentary That Shows the Whole Family’s Experience with Substance Use

As Allies members know quite well, substance use often throws not just the user, but an entire family into turmoil. The documentary Our American Family takes an intimate look at one such family in Philadelphia. This review from Psychology Today reflects on the film and the troubled but resilient family it follows.

Many documentaries focus on the person or persons with substance use. It’s less common to encounter a film that takes the whole family on as its subject. Dr. Lloyd I Sederer’s review makes it clear that Our American Family is a powerful, sensitive film. It’s likely one that will resonate with many in the Allies in Recovery community. Read the review from Psychology Today here: 

P.S. For further insight on the film, please read this review from the New York Times or watch the official trailer for the film.

View the official trailer here:


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In your comments, please show respect for each other and do not give advice. Please consider that your choice of words has the power to reduce stigma and change opinions (ie, "person struggling with substance use" vs. "addict", "use" vs. "abuse"...)