Here’s what I know happens when addiction comes roaring through a family…

Whether you are the one struggling with it, or someone suffering on the sidelines… like a flood – when addiction comes through a family it is all consuming. It overtakes everyone, and it comes for    E V E R Y T H I N G.

Every-thing.

If you are a family member who is hyper-responsible, nurturing and prone to fixing things – it’s coming for those qualities. It will twist, and use and manipulate them over and over.

If you‘re giving and compassionate, it’s coming for those parts.

If you are someone who feels chronic guilt, fault, shame, or blame – it will move in on those parts of you and use them against you.

If you have control, temper, or impulse issues, or struggle with panic, obsessive thinking and worry – it hones in on those areas and will amplify them to the 10th power.

If someone is charming, a skilled communicator, and perhaps gifted with charisma, it will use those characteristics to manipulate and divide.

If you happen to have enemies, rivals or ridiculers – this problem will be what they poke, point at, and talk about. Trust me on that.

Addiction is a problem unlike any other.

Preconceived notions of solution don’t work. Addiction strips away intelligence, traditions, roles, titles, accomplishments and all you once thought you knew about it.

Just as it’s cunning, baffling and powerful – it’s also fluid and unpredictable.

But here’s another thing I know about that flood: when those waters stop surging, if everyone does the work to clean up the damage and heal – every area that got saturated can be made new. Many times better and stronger than before.

It is not an overnight repair, there is no quick fix. It’s a lifelong healing and rebuilding process.

This is why it’s incredibly difficult to go through alone. It’s vital to get information, education, guidance and support. Kindness and compassion greatly help too! Toward the one struggling, as much as toward those who love and are affected by that person.

Regardless who the affliction has taken hold of, we all have work to do. Everyone needs to assess themselves. The entire family and all of its systems need repair.

I have found that just like addiction – RECOVERY seeps into every area too.

When recovery gets in it can make anyone compassionate, strong, brave, self-aware, loving, grateful, introspective, nonjudgmental and kind.

Doing the work to recover spills into every corner of life.

Recovery creates an awakening that will make you mindful of the moment and grateful for every day.

If everyone does their work, family relationships can be repaired and completely renovated.

On this side of those storms, I’m grateful for the awakening brought into our lives. I know the value of introspection, compassion, kindness and support. And more than anything I know now how precious time is.

Life can get better after the flood.

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