Our Allies member is heartbroken, reeling from the damage her daughter has done to the family, and hoping she’ll “hit some kind of bottom”… How would the CRAFT method suggest she approach her situation?
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“When it rains it pours is something I can identify with. Our daughter met a boy and he is someone well versed in the treatment brokering business. He convinced her to leave treatment and relapse. Then she was supposed to get money for going to a new rehab. We fear this boy is now controlling things. He took her to CA and I believe they are shopping for treatment for her there. She had told us about her plan to go to FLA or CA but we insisted she stay in Texas and she promised she would. We then found out through a friend that she had snapchatted she was at the airport and had left Texas. My heart sank.
So how does CRAFT deal with this? She has called several times but we did not answer the phone. We are heartbroken. For our own sanity we needed to cut off ties with her. The damage she has done to my family is hard to even put in words. I am not sure that is the CRAFT way to approach this problem but we are hoping she hits some kind of bottom and reaches out for real help.
She did well on Suboxone and was leading a very productive life for several months. I am hopeful she can do it again but at this point she is not ready.
Thank you for all your suggestions and the work you are doing.”
Dominique Simon-Levine reminds this mother what the CRAFT method would encourage the family to do
It is hard to imagine what that boy did. There were hearings on the hill about deceptive practices in the treatment world. I think this one may beat them all.
CRAFT would suggest you stay in contact, urge treatment, and help with treatment if needed. The contact can be a text telling her you love her. In a second text, perhaps you reminisce about how you felt having your daughter back as a result of suboxone.